“The past is gone, the future is not here yet and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life.”
Thich Nhat Hanh
Thich Nhat Hanh
At Divorce Right we are working to change the conversation around divorce and separation and remove the stigma that is still attached to it. We advocate a different approach to divorce so that you thrive before, during and after your divorce. We advocate some shifts in perspective to achieve this and we believe that mindfulness and wellness is one way to achieve this no matter how messy the process may seem. It is necessary to change the negative narrative into a positive experience. Mindfulness can improve your health and wellbeing. When you make mindfulness a part of your daily routine it can be life changing. I often talk to clients about getting centred and being in the present without judgement. This is so important especially when going through divorce or separation. When we practice mindfulness, we always remain aware of the present moment, aware of who we are, what we are doing and why we are doing it. It’s about “living in the present moment.” By making small changes to your perspectives and habits you will begin to feel better.
Research shows that practising mindfulness can relieve stress, anxiety, insomnia, depression and even high blood pressure as well as a host of other illnesses. When you are mindful, you don’t dwell on the events of the past that may cause you distress. When going through a divorce it’s very easy to get caught up in the negative loop of what is happening. It’s necessary to change the story that we keep telling ourselves. When we do this magic happens. We can start by making positive affirmations and look for the little things we are grateful for.
It is a good idea to start by practising a daily meditation. Start with just 10 minutes each day. Sit down, make yourself comfortable, close your eyes. Watch your breath as it enters and leaves your nostrils or causes your abdomen to rise and fall. When you start this practice, it may be difficult to concentrate as you will notice that there are many thoughts floating around in your mind and you may find it difficult to quieten your mind. You may notice that your mind has a tendency to jump from thought to thought without any real connection. Don’t give up, but rather keep at it and gradually increase the time you spend meditating each day. You will start noticing a difference soon.
There are few flowers that are as important to Eastern culture as the lotus flower. Each culture ascribes a different meaning to the flower. The Egyptians view the lotus as a symbol of rebirth. The Hindus on the other hand looked at it a little differently. They saw the flower as a symbol of peace and serenity.
To the Buddhists, the lotus represents patience, love and compassion, forgiveness, self awareness and rising out of suffering. At Divorce Right we value peace, serenity, patience, love, compassion, forgiveness, self-awareness and strength. We see divorce as a form of rebirth, the end of one chapter in your life and the beginning of the next. Hence the reason we use the lotus as a symbol.
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